There are almost innumerable experiments in my book that allow you to find out whether what I am saying is true for you. Instead of saying what you should be doing as many good guidelines do, I offer your experiments, so you can explore for yourself, how you personally can find ways of getting more joy in your life. Experience the ones that interest you and enjoy the adventure.
Here is a small selection:
Pick a path in your apartment that is about 5 meters long and has a wall or piece of furniture at either end. You will walk the length of it three times. This experiment is about tuning into your physical feeling of the ebb and flow of energy in order to get to experience the effect of our thoughts. If you notice the energy changes, you will automatically regulate your energy household better and better.The only “discipline” you need is the tenacity of repeating the experiment once a day every day for about ten days. Once you have figured out how to do the experiment it takes less than a minute a day to actually do it.
Start with your back to your chosen path touching lightly the end (wall/cabinet) in front of you. Turn around, walk slowly towards the other end and speak out loud, starting with the words: “It gives me energy to think about …. (e.g. " the vacation coming up” or “how angry my boss makes me") At the same time while walking and talking, feel into your body where (not whether!) you feel the energy change. It's not about negative or positive, but about becoming aware of the energetic change in your body.
When you arrive at the end of your path touch the end (wall/shelf) and stop, immediately interrupting the spoken thought. Without pausing, turn around, start walking back down the path slowly, speaking out loud: It costs me energy …(e.g. "to figure out what I am going to cook today" or "to think about how exhausting the last chore I did was") Again, while walking and talking, feel into your body where (not if) you feel the energy change. It's not about negative or positive, but about becoming aware of the energetic change in your body.
When you arrive at the end of your path again, touch the end (wall/shelf) and stop, immediately interrupting the spoken thought. Without pausing, turn around, start walking back down the path slowly, this time putting sounds or words to some of the things that you spontaneously perceive -hear, smell, feel, see, taste -(e.g. "ray of light", "wobbly step", "mouth dry", "hiss", "click-click") If your observations are – as they should be -totally non-judgmental, there will be no energy change in your body.
It is worthwhile to repeat this experiment daily. At the beginning you might be unsure whether what I say is true and whether I feel anything at all. But the benefit becomes clearer every day.Non-judgmental perception is very difficult for people who have grown up in the age of material gain because we tend to explore automatically what we can exploit and how we are being exploited.Our e-motions give us energy to act upon thoughts and perceptions. Rarely does a person notice how the energy changes in the body accompany every thought and what a wonderful sense of natural security we get by simply noticing the world we move in. Getting into the habit of tuning into your energy household is easy because the very strong mammalian part of the brain is constantly trying to make us aware of the information it has to offer, but our exploitative habits and our emergency mode of attetions tends to block out the healthy signals. To be in tune with your energy household makes it much easier to take good care of yourself. It is a basic tool for thriving!
Stand or sit completely upright with your skull, shoulders and pelvis stacked over each other. Check if you are really aligned and in balance by slightly swaying left and right, forward and backward until you find your center of gravity. Breathe in and out calmly and evenly through your nose.
First round: Imagine a situation that makes you sad. Go deeper and deeper in the imagination until you notice how your posture changes. Stay with the feeling until you have had enough. Then turn your attention back to your body, blink, stretch and shake your whole body.
Stand or sit completely upright with your skull, shoulders and pelvis stacked over each other. Check if you are really aligned and in balance by slightly swaying left and right, forward and backward until you find your center of gravity. Breathe in and out calmly and evenly through your nose.
Second round: Imagine a situation that makes you angry. Go deeper and deeper in the imagination until you notice how your posture changes. Stay with the feeling until you have had enough. Then turn your attention completely back to your body. Blink, stretch and shake your whole body thoroughly.
Stand or sit completely upright with your skull, shoulders and pelvis stacked over each other. Check if you are really aligned and in balance by slightly swaying left and right, forward and backward until you find your center of gravity. Breathe in and out calmly and evenly through your nose.
Third round: Imagine a situation that frightens you. Get deeper and deeper into the imagination until you notice how your posture changes. Stay with the feeling until you have had enough. Then turn your attention completely back to your body. Blink, stretch and shake your whole body thoroughly.
By actively and intentionally activating specific emotions in your body and switching in and out of the emotions, you gain more control over the energy of the emotion itself and more insight into the trigger and a growing understanding of the intelligence involved in emotions.
Collect - preferably in writing - both pleasant and unpleasant episodes from your childhood. When you have collected at least 10 episodes, explore them one by one again to discover any similarities between the behavior of the people you were involved with back then and your own behavior today.
Write a text about one of your role models who bullied his or her intimate partner. Write him or her a letter saying that you have decided to take a new path on which you will be expressing appreciation and practicing eye level communication. Tell him or her that you will nevertheless always keep him or her in your heart.Express your gratitude for your relationship and for his or her accompaniment on your path of life. End your letter with the things that you admire and appreciate about him or her and perhaps naming the qualities you will be keeping with you in your future behavior with your own loved ones
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